These days, increasingly people prefer one night hookups than serious relationships, because it is free from drama, direct and pure, perfect suit for such a complicated and quick-paced world. We all want to have a nice and successful hookup. What is the most important factor in a successful hookup? I am going to answer this question for you with my own experience.
A month ago, my girlfriend and I broke up, for that I found her sleeping with another guy. It hurt me so much that I couldn’t stop crying every time I think of her. In order to get over her, I took the so-called most effective way to get over a relationship---hooking up with someone else. I planned to sunk myself into endless hookups until I got over her. It was just too painful to be alone, even for just one night.
During that whole month, I either went to my friends’ house to stay, or sharing a bed with some unknown girls who I met in different parties, bars, and even online hookup apps and meet me apps. I filled my life with different people and kinds of social activities. I thought that was the right way to get over a relationship without feeling hurt.
I couldn’t remember how many girls I slept with and how many one night hookup I had, or how many hotels I have been to. Strangely, I have never been really happy for once and I didn’t enjoy any of those hookups, not for the reason that the girls were not pretty enough, nor they are not good enough in bed. The reason lied in me. I didn’t have any enthusiasm and passion. I was like a walk-dead. I didn’t like any of those girls and I like all of them, if you know what I mean.
I still remember one time. There was a smoking hot lady who I met on a hook up app or meet me apps. She was very into me and couldn’t wait to see me. We met in a bar first and then went to a hotel upstairs. She was so happy and excited to meet me, while I just acted so plain and calm. We talked about a lot, including my last relationship. I believe she instilled me with really deep thought about my last relationship and the attitude I should take toward it. It made me realize that I could never be truly happy if I still held on to it, no matter it is hatred or love. As long as I still have any feeling or emotion toward that passed relationship, I will never be enthusiastic and passion about my life and about anything, including hookup.
It opened a whole new door for me to get out. I came to realize that the reason why I didn’t enjoy any of the hookups I had is that I didn’t have emotions in any of them. In other words, I didn’t hookup with someone because I want to, but because of I thought I need. I can never really enjoy it that way.